Question:

I mean, I have seen many of my friends being screwed by paying alimony and child support and end up losing everything they have made. and also have read that 66% of divorces are initiated by women. I even have seen one case where the court actually divided the property that the guy inherited too! I was thinking pre-nuptial agreements can be an answer to this, but I have recently found out that the court can chooses to not approve them (so I don't understand what is the point of pre-nuptials anyways!).

considering all this, I know as a fact that most men do not want to get married cause it can crush them financialy, and all these cause less families to be shaped and considering that families are the basic building blocks of a society, weaken the society.

my question is, don't you think these laws really need to be reformed? and if yes how can one (by help of others) can make any effort toward pushing the government to reconsider these laws ?

you see devi_wonderwoman, you see I have seen many of these survays (and who knows the truth of some of them, but anyways) that you mentioned, my question is, if women aren't financially as successful as men, is it men's fault!? I think the only reason is men usually put more effort into being financially successful because most men believe that as a man they have to be bread winners. so if women also want to be financially successful should do the same thing, not sucking the life out of the poor guy after divorce!

I also forgot to mention one more thing 'C S', a family is a family as long as the man and the woman live together, and I don't see how you call it a family after divorce!

'Short_and_Sweet', I should say, you have a great logic, cause you are answering a question with another question! that really proves your point!!!(I am really surprised that you haven't become a great philosopher, or maybe you are but I am unaware and ignorant.)

Answer:

I agree they are unfair im dealing with it right now. I found out that with me bringing home $400 a week i was going to be giving her $140 every week just child support and its nearly impossible for the man to get custody even when he works a 40 hour job doesnt drink smoke or do anything wrong and the women is on the streets selling herself for cash the man has to prove her "unfit" in the governments eyes b/c they say the child needs its mother the way i see it is children need both parents particularly the one who can care for there well-being the best not necessarily just the mother

the only thing i know of to do about it is to get a petition going and petition lawmakers send it around online to ppl with a return address so ppkl can print it off have it signed and get it back to you go around to divorced fathers that know the problems get them to put it down on the paper and sign the petions

Oh and C S it isnt putting there wallets before there families its fear of paying for something they didnt do like the woman cheats the man files for divorce and the woman winds up with the kids and hits him for alimony. Y should the man have to take care of her when she done it? thats wat scares men off from marriage

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Devi you tell me how it makes it better on a man to get divorced pay 30% of his check (wat he makes before taxes) to a woman on top of paying alimony (basically paying all her living expenses) cause i would love to know were im fixing to come into money by tacking onto my "bills"